Work Life Balance

Yesterday I had the chance to go to an IAAP Education Seminar. For those of you who have no clue what IAAP means, me included....it is The International Association of Administrative Professionals, Lynchburg Chapter.
So since I am an Administrative Professional I was signed up to go. I mean I just thought I was a secretary....but they went all out to say Administrative...not Assistant...but Professional...I was like ugh ok what am I getting into.
So I went....there were vendors, there was a free lunch, there was awkward conversation with the people we didn't know at our table, there was too much down time and I was getting board...and then the speaker started to talk.
Oh.My you guys! It was amazing. Donna Tyson was the communicator...and guys...She was an amazing communicator...I mean right up there with Beth Moore. Now those of you who can't stand her...well that wasn't a good comparison...but I love Beth Moore. I think she is outstanding...so pick your favorite woman communicator & put this lady standing...ok fine...maybe a little below her. :)

I really want to share some of what I learned from it...I was laughing, crying, (no lie), and feverishly taking down notes the whole time.
I'm going to be paraphrasing what she said obviously because I'm not a communicator, but I'm going to try to convey all that I learned so hang with me. :)

The topic of the seminar was was: Work Life Balance.
Not a novel concept, but I kept an open mind.

She started off with this poem:
The Woman in the Glass
Author: Dale Wimbrow
When you get what you want as your struggle for self
And the world makes you queen for a day,
Just go to the mirror and look at yourself,
And see what that woman has to say.

For it isn't your father or mother or husband
Who's judgement upon you must pass;
The person whose verdict counts most in your life
Is the one staring back from the glass.

She's the person to please, never mind all the rest,
For she's with you clear up to the end.
And you've passed your most dangerous, difficult test
If the woman in the glass if your friend.

You may fool the whole world down the pathway of life,
And get pats on your back as you pass.
But your final reward will be heartache and tears
If you've cheated the woman in the glass.

Then she asked this question: Would you want to work with you? Would you be someone you would confide in at work? Would you be the person that you trusted someone with all your secrets....as women unfortunately we know that one cuts a little deep. And then the last one...would you want to live with and be married to you? .....crickets.....

Self Esteem...Who are we women? Who do WE say we are? Are we hardest on ourselves than anyone else? Why? Why do we do that to us? When you change what you say about yourself...you change who you are. (I believe this 100%....a friend, I won't mention who...cough...Angie Godsey...cough walked me through CR and that was the biggest lesson I learned...change that tape loop Janna. Change what you say about you Janna....) Amazing. Life changing.

We need to ask ourselves three questions:
1. Who do I "think" I am? (Do I know this answer?)
2. Who do other people "think" I am? (my perception on what they think about me.)
3. Who do people REALLY think I am? (Their REAL perception of me)

Knowledge without action is worthless. Change what you think about yourself.

Think about the movie the Wizard of Oz....wasn't everyone in that movie looking for something? If I only had a Heart....If I only had brain...If I could only get back home.....in the end what did they all end up finding.....they already HAD what they were searching for...they just couldn't' see it.
Be still.
When you are silent you can listen. Listen to that still soft voice.

Life operates in a wheel.
When our wheel is out of balance...what happens? Obviously our wheel doesn't roll right. So everything needs to be in balance so that we can function properly.
So lets talk about the wheel.

The Hub: Spiritual
Ask yourself: What do I believe? What do I believe about life, death, how this world was made etc etc, because the way your wheel is going to roll is through this filter of what you believe. It drastically changes how the other spokes work. We all have a void inside of us....there is something more. There is a bigger picture.

Spoke One: Career
If you hate your job - it means you don't care enough about yourself to quit. You spend the most time there...more than the time you spend with your families & friends. Love yourself enough to love what you do! You don't HAVE to be stuck in a job where you don't want to be there every day. You CAN love your job, I (this is me, Janna, talking) am proof of this. I spent 12 years in an industry that I thought I loved, but deep down had so much pent up stress and aggression because I just didn't like it. I was in such discord every day. I would cry Sunday nights because I knew Monday morning was coming. (Seriously I did). But now...I can honestly say: I LOVE MY JOB! It fills me, it brings me so much joy. I love serving the people I work for, I love doing paper work I love love being an admin. Love yourself enough to quit.

Spoke Two: Social
If you let Wife, Mother, Friend....etc...define you - Who are you when they are gone? Who are you? "If what you do is who you are -- then when you don't - you ain't" YOU have to CHOOSE to live for (God in my case) you. Be you! Be happy, chose to live a full life and make every day count!

Spoke Three: Physical
"Our bodies weep the tears our eyes refuse to shed." Dan Millman What a quote right? Ladies we have to stay in physical health. we have to! Lets not be proud of the fact that we can were a size "3"! The only person I am fooling wearing elastic is ME! Lets stay healthy. Get down on the ground play with your kids, grand kids, be active. LIVE life.

Spoke Four: Financial
Every decision you make, task you take on, goal you set....someone / something gets a little less of you. Think about that next hobby you take on...how much money will it cost? How much money will it take to make it happen? What will you have to give up to do it? Think about the bills you owe. Don't be so in debt that you can't make good giving choices.

Spoke Five: Emotional
“It is not my ability, but my response to God’s ability, that counts.” ― Corrie ten Boom
How are we responding ladies? Do we respond from a filter of hurt? Do we respond from a filer of love & trusting God? The biggest freedom we have if the freedom to choose how we will respond to things. Respond well.

Then she finished up with talking about how we live our life in Chapters. Its not this long drawn out saga...its chapters. Some chapters are exciting, some are scary, some are just sad and filed with heart ache....and that is ok! Be ok with with the next chapter. Be BRAVE enough to turn the page! Learn from the last one, be holy, and move on to the next one.

It was such an inspirational session. She really was motivating & it made me want to go motivate others too! :) I guess thats how you know someone is a good communicator. They inspire, make you laugh, make you cry, bring you right along side them. It was a great great day in my little Administrative Professional life.
I hope you are inspired to & that you find the God stories in here, go apply, and inspire too. :)